If proper boundaries are not established, increasing intimacy can have some undesirable results – such as feelings of abuse or betrayal following a break-up, loss of appropriate personal boundaries without a commensurate commitment, and beginning to become one before the couple actually belongs to one another.With this in mind, let's explore some boundary guidelines.You may have heard the quote “The couple that prays together stays together,” that statement has generally been made in relation to Married couples, in fact research suggests that up to 92% of couples that pray together stay together (). The reality is, spirituality is something vital to your relationship and here are some thoughts on why praying together even as a dating couple is a good idea. DEEPER UNDERSTANDING: Hearing the heart for God that your prospective other has is vital, too often we use phrases like “Christian” and “prayer” and think it means the same thing to each other. When working with couples during premarital counselling or after their wedding day we often come across issues and questions around spirituality and spiritual connection, or rather, the lack of it!If I’m being honest, it wasn’t until my current relationship that I realized the importance of putting God first.God calls us to seek him above all else“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew ).Much to my parent’s dismay, I dated a lot in high school.
These conversations can be awkward, I have learned that from experience, but I have also learned that these sometimes awkward situations can develop into a new level of spiritual intimacy with your significant other. Expressing your innermost thoughts and concerns about faith can be kind of intimidating, but it brings you closer as a couple.Don’t give up on it and continue to challenge one another through your conversations.Put God first in your relationship and work together for the glory of his kingdom.Help each other grow in faith by being accountability partners.Don’t give up on the challenge At the end of the day, God should be first in your life, and in your relationship.Intimacy includes emotional and spiritual connectedness as well as physical connection.