I almost always talk about my cancer on the first date.
At one point he put his head in my lap, and we were talking and laughing, and I leaned over so far he said, ' Is that a boob on my forehead?I said, ' Teaching moment: This is a tattooed aureole, and this is a reconstructed nipple.' And he was like, ' Cool! I get called fearless, but I’m not: Part of the reason I’m searching for a partner is that I fear my cancer will recur and I’ll end up alone, without someone by my side. It took me a long time to love and be comfortable with how I look.So now that I am, my attitude is, ' F--k it, this is me.“Breast cancer survivors offer a unique understanding of the value of life—and love.”) The women you’re about to meet— Jenny, Kristina, and Nicole—are proof.Jenny Saldaña, 45, an actress, comedian and Ford Model of Courage living in New York City; diagnosed 11 years ago"When I signed up for OKCupid, they asked, What’s the most private thing you’re willing to admit?It’s my way of saying, ' If you don’t want to know, you’re probably not my match.' That picture has encouraged beautiful first-date conversations about how life doesn’t go the way we want but that doesn’t mean it’s not good. I’ve started to gravitate to people who haven’t had such easy roads.